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Amber’s attorney husband filed for divorce and used the Family Court to abuse her legally and emotionally.
Accepting the fact that the marriage is truly over – regardless of the presence of some other woman – is painful and confronting. But out of this acceptance comes healing and closure. And healing and closure are what is needed, not months or years of living in a state of anger, grief and false hope.
I wish I could say that I had one of those divorces where we both agreed that we were better off apart and where we worked together to create a new version of our relationship, but I didn’t. And as I crawled through it, I learned (sometimes I learned in the hardest way possible). But oh how I wish I’d known what I learned along the way before I even filed for divorce.
You want advice, serious advice, advice you can hold onto and if you want, wear it like a Superman cape to give you strength. You want to know that you’re not the only one who has felt this way, not the only one with so many different feelings and thoughts ricocheting through your brain that you’re half-convinced one will shoot out of your skull and accidentally boink someone else.
After spending months crying over a failed marriage, mourning the loss of a future I had imagined for our family, I came to realize that I had defined much of who I was based on this partnership and I felt lost. “What now?” “How do I move forward?” “Who am I?”
Sit quietly on the sidelines while the narcissist digs his own parental grave – and he will dig it because he just won’t be able to help himself. Take comfort in the fact that children are strong, resilient, and smart. They will grow up one day and see the narcissist parent for what he is.
It’s a parent’s responsibility to be thoughtful as to whom they bring around their children, when, and in what context. This doesn’t always feel fair to the new person, and certainly, no one wants to feel “hidden” and like a second-class citizen forever.
It is natural for memory to gloss over the painful events and emphasize the good ones. You may be viewing your ex through rose-colored glasses, and not the way you perceived him in the past. This happened to me.
Someone once asked me, “Is it possible to fall in love with someone you have met in person,” My response was, “of course, I’m in love with Bradley Cooper and already planning the wedding,” however once we laughed that fantasy of mine away, my honest answer was, it depends on the circumstances. I mean you can’t just look at a photograph have a few texts or emails and fall in love. Can you?
Blaming the other woman keeps us from having to take responsibility for the problems in the marriage and our own feelings, so we like to pretend that if it hadn’t been for that other person there would have never been an affair. Problem is, there would have been, it just would have been a different “other” person.